7 Steps to Create a Life You Love

In my previous blog post ‘How to Create a Life You Want’ I shared 4 ways to start creating a life you love. In this post, I’m going to break it down even more to some actionable steps you can start doing today to start living a truly fulfilled life you love.

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Follow Your Own Path

The first step to creating a life you love is to live your own life. What does your ideal life look like to you? If you aren’t sure, you can start by daydreaming, writing down what you want your life to look like, or create a vision board with images of how you want to feel, where you want to live, and what you want to be surrounding with.

You can’t live the life of your dreams if you don’t know what your dreams are. Think big, and think of what you actually want (not what others might be telling you that you should want).

Take Responsibility for Your Life

We are all in control of our own lives. Yes, there are things that are out of our control or we might be in situations that are not ideal, but usually there are ways that we can take responsibility for our lives.

  • Do you blame others for your unhappiness?

  • Do you complain that you don’t like an aspect of your life, but don’t do anything about it?

  • Do you rely on others to make you happy?

In order to be happy, we need to take charge of our life! If there is something that isn’t making you happy, think of a way to change it, or at least make it suck less!

The moment you take responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you can change anything in your life.
— Hal Elrod
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Here are some ways to start taking responsibility of your life and feel happier now.

Forgive

Is there someone that you are angry at? A situation from the past that you are holding onto? Or maybe you’re mad at yourself for some bad choices you made in the past.

Whatever you might be holding onto, whatever anger you’re holding inside, try to forgive.

I understand that everyone has different things that have happened to them, and I’m very fortunate to have had a great childhood and wonderful people around me. I know not everyone is this lucky. But the longer you hold onto your anger, your frustrations, and your sadness, the longer you are allowing someone to hurt you. You are giving all your power to the very person you are upset with.

A few years ago, I had someone close to me lose her husband. We were only in our thirties and it was way to young for her to experience that. She was the bravest, strongest person through that time, and still is. And I think one of the reasons might be because of her amazing relationship with her husband. When she talked about him, you could feel how strong their love was, and how good they treated each other. She was able to keep that with her and know they lived their short years together in true love, and without anger and regret.

His brother on the other hand took his death very hard, and at the time they weren’t speaking to each other because of something done in the past. Had he made amends before this tragedy, would he have felt differently? I don’t know, but do you want to risk it?

Forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean you forget, but it does mean living a life with more love, joy and peace.

Always be Thankful

This one gets talked about quite often, and the power of being grateful. There always seems to be a new gratitude journal available, or a new way of showing your gratitude in your life. You can choose to write down what you’re grateful for, take a few minutes each day to pause and reflect, or however else you choose to be thankful for all the good in your life.

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
— Oprah Winfrey

Positive Relationships

One key to living a wonderful life is surrounding yourself with people who lift you higher and make you feel happy. This doesn’t necessarily mean you need hundreds of friends, but that your close friends and family are good, solid relationships.

  • Nurture your current relationships. Do you have a wonderful friend who you haven’t talked to in awhile? Give them a call, or send them a card to let them know you’re thinking of them.

  • Let go of toxic relationships. Do you have any negative friends that complain and constantly bring you down? You don’t have to necessarily stop being friends with them, but hang out with them less, and when you are with them, try boosting the conversation with positivity or see if there is something you could do to boost that person up.

Take Care of You

It would be hard to create a life you love if you aren’t healthy enough to enjoy it! Take time each day to take care of yourself including your body and your mind.

  • Take time each day to move your body. This doesn’t need to be a long time, but I try to take a 20-minute walk each day and this allows me to move, enjoy the outdoors, and daydream.

  • Balance what you eat. I’m not an expert in nutrition, but there are many people who are! Focus on fuelling your body with good, nutritious foods that make you feel good.

  • Think of what you’re thankful for. Practice daily gratitude for the good in your life.

  • Learn. Whether it’s by reading daily, or listening to interesting podcasts, learning will allow you to grow and expand.

Celebrate

This is one area that I think we forget about. When is the last time you made a goal or dream and then worked hard to make it happen. Then once you achieved it, instead of celebrating, you jumped on to the next goal or achievement you wanted to make happen? I know I do this all the time.

The next time you achieve something, pause to celebrate. Even if it’s just rewarding yourself with some time for yourself, celebrating our accomplishments allows us to appreciate what we already have, not just thinking about what’s next.

What about you? What do you think is needed to create a life you love? Share with me in the comments!